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Addressing grief and loss

As a school community we are grieving the sad loss of one of our past students.

As parents we often wonder the best way to support our children and teenagers through these times which can be really hard for us all. I have included resources that are most useful for us as a school community focusing on what is important right now feelings of loss and sadness navigating through these very real and unavoidable human emotions, with courage, strength and wisdom. Empowering ourselves and our children and teens to deal with sadness, grief and loss.

The attached resources may be of assistance and cover the below topics 

  • How we can cope with our own grief
  • Supporting teenagers through grief and how they can support themselves
  • Building resilience
  • Tips for looking after ourselves and ideas for self care.

If you or your child would like any additional support please do contact me at calderj@scotscollege.school.nz or Skylight Trust at +64 4 939 6767

I would also like to share the below information and resources provided by Julie Watkin, resource co-ordinator at Skylight Trust. Skylight Trust aim to support children, young people, and their whanau to navigate through tough times by building resilient individuals and communities.

Online Shop:

You view the Skylight online catalogue here outlining services and resources that Skylight offers. The following resources, available for purchase, might be helpful:

Resilience Hub:

The Skylight website has many useful articles and links. Some relevant topics might be:

These webinars may also be helpful:

Web Series:

A web series on the power of resilience. A series of documentary type interviews with six young people from various backgrounds, cultures, ages and walks of life. They share messages of hope, things they’ve learned through their own experiences and how to build the strengths needed to manage the tough times life sometimes brings.

Skylight Library:

The Skylight specialist library contains a wide range of resources on grief and loss, for both adults and children. This is a free service and we post books nationally. We do ask our borrowers to pay for return postage. You can search our library catalogue on the Skylight website or we can recommend titles for you.   

Helplines and Useful Links:

To talk to a trained counsellor at any time, free call or text 1737.

 The Parenting Place – The Parenting Place is a place for parents to access parenting education and resources on a huge range of topics.

Common Ground – A website providing parents, whānau and friends with access to information and tools to support young people.

What’s Up – 0800 942 8787 (for 5–18 year olds). Phone counselling is available Monday to Friday, 12 noon–11pm and weekends, 3pm–11pm. Online chat is available 3pm–10pm daily.

SPARX.org.nz – Online e-therapy tool provided by the University of Auckland that helps young people learn skills to deal with feeling down, depressed or stressed

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